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Navigating Technology and Screens with Wisdom
By Rev. Justin Wyckoff
Parents in every generation have faced challenges. But this generation faces something truly new: smartphones, tablets, constant internet access, and a stream of images and ideas that never stops. You do not have to invite technology into your home. It is already there. The question is not whether your kids will encounter screens, but how they will be shaped by them.
As Christian parents, we do not have to fear every new tool, but we also do not want to simply shrug and say, “That is just how it is now.” Jesus calls His people to be wise as serpents and innocent as doves. That is a helpful posture when we think about technology.
So how do we walk this out?
First, remember that you are the parent, not a passive observer. It is both your right and your responsibility to set boundaries. That might mean delaying when your child gets a smartphone, limiting which social media platforms they can use, or deciding that certain games or shows are not healthy for your family. You will not always get it perfectly right, but silence and passivity are not options.
Second, aim for formation, not just restriction. Our goal is not just to block bad content. Our goal is to raise kids who can one day say “no” themselves. That means talking about why certain things are damaging. Explain how some content can shape their view of themselves, their bodies, their friends, and God. Help them see that not everything that feels entertaining is good for their hearts.
Third, create a culture of openness in your home. You want your kids to know that if they see something disturbing, confusing, or tempting, they can come to you without fear of a complete meltdown. That does not mean there are no consequences for disobedience. It does mean you respond with grace and truth, not just anger. You want to be the safest place for them to bring hidden things into the light.
Fourth, model the boundaries you set. If you tell your teenager to stay off their phone at the dinner table while you constantly check yours, they will notice. Ask God to shape your own habits first. Consider where your own screen time might be dulling your spiritual life or stealing presence from your family.
Practically, you might decide that all devices charge overnight in a central location rather than in bedrooms. You might choose certain hours or one day a week where the family is screen free. You might intentionally watch some shows or movies together so you can talk about what you are seeing and compare it with Scripture.
Technology is a powerful tool, but it is a terrible master. Our kids were created not just to stare at screens, but to behold the glory of God, love real people, and live in His world with wisdom. At The Crossings, we want to cheer you on as you navigate this complicated area with courage, humility, and faith. |
